Another celebrity suicide…
It’s heartbreaking, right?
But, let’s not just feel sorry for Anthony’s family, or Kate Spade’s family. Let’s not just post on social media, and proclaim we’re praying. Let’s learn from these tragedies. Yes, sometimes the signs are there in our loved ones. Yes, sometimes suffering in silence happens, and we just don’t know. But, I beg y’all to please open up your hearts and minds to mental health awareness! Research it. Learn the signs, and don’t ignore them. Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States, and we can help to lower that.
This humongous stigma surrounding mental health, it’s part of the problem. We are afraid of it. Maybe we are afraid our lives won’t look perfect. Or afraid that our friends and family are suffering, and it’ll burden our already busy lives. Maybe we are afraid of the labels that come along with it. But…friends, please stomp on that fear. No more suffering in silence!
We do not need to be ashamed if we go through depression, anxiety, etc. And we need to let our friends know that they do not need to be ashamed either. We need to let them know that they are worthy…so very worthy. That they are loved. YOU are loved. We ALL have purpose!
I’ve lost a few loved ones to suicide, and I know so many that have felt that loss as well. As some of ya’ll know, I went through a very dark time in my life (a few times). And, I can tell you; it’s the loneliest feeling in the world. Your mind tricks you into believing the world is better off without you. That you are a burden to this world. Because of mental illness.
To put things into a little perspective : I’ve been called crazy. By family. I’ve had my past of therapy and antidepressants, shoved in my face to belittle me years later. Friends avoided me, due to a stigma that was stronger than the memories we shared. I’ve reached out at dark times, and I’ve been shamed, ignored, and left thinking there wasn’t a purpose for my life. I’ve had my mental illness used against me in a relationship. Please do NOT be that person, and if you know someone that is…let them know how damaging their words can be. I’m still here, by some angel or something out there pulling me back from those mind tricks. But, unfortunately some ignore that pull. Just like they’ve been ignored for so long.
Let’s be present. Let’s not ignore the signs. If there’s something wrong with someone you know, listen to them. Really listen to them, and let them know that you’ve heard them. Let them know how proud you are of them for reaching out, for surviving another day. Regardless if it makes sense to you or not. Maybe you’ve never suffered with mental illness, but please be empathetic, and most importantly do NOT write their feelings off. Confiding in you was probably terrifying, but it’s also a HUGE step for us too.
“Just because you don’t understand it, it doesn’t mean it isn’t so.”
– – Lemony Snicket (yes, I’m quoting a fictional character, relevant)
And please don’t write your own feelings off either. It’s okay to have them! What’s not okay is…ignoring them ❤.
If you ever need a friend, I’m here. You aren’t alone, and your story isn’t over. You belong here, and you have purpose. Please keep holding on.
Suicide Hotline : 1-800-784-2433
Something that has helped me tremendously, is using essential oils. No, I am not claiming they are a cure-all. And I’m not here to diagnose or treat anything. But, if you’d like to try my favorite blend that I use throughout the day for emotions, please reach out and I will gladly send you a free sample.